Archive for October 2010

25th Wedding Anniversary On Halloween

October 31, 2010

Shortly before my 10th wedding anniversary, my seven and half month-old baby twin, Alexander, died of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome. Nevertheless we went out to lunch on the day of our anniversary. I remember the tears literally spilling out of my eyes and onto my plate, but not what I ate. Today is my 25th [...]

Loki The Lonely Bike

October 30, 2010

To distract myself one morning when I was particularly down, I sat up in bed and asked my husband to read to me from the Vegetarian Times magazine that I’ve been getting since September. It brought back memories, recent memories, of lively dinner table conversations. Florentina and I, the vegetarians of the family who had [...]

Tonight’s Ball

October 28, 2010

Tonight, for the first time since he started coming, Andrew will not be at the Windflower Ball – aka – First Candle Charity Ball I feel wretched. Suddenly my stomach is all tied up in knots. November third will mark the first anniversary of Andrew’s death. But already, other than in dreams, I have not [...]

When The Perfect Storm Had Fully Brewed

October 27, 2010

As you know, on Sunday I went to the Living Proof concert organized by Neil Totton, in memory of suicide victims. It was truly, an amazing evening. Just being there was a healing experience for me, and the talent was pretty much as good as it gets. The air was filled with the powerful openness [...]

The Last Time We Saw Andrew Alive

October 25, 2010

A year ago yesterday, though I didn’t know it, was to be the last time I saw my son alive. I wrote this post last February and I am posting it again today. Everyday life seems so normal. Talking, cooking, hugging your children, your husband, getting annoyed with the perennially hungry cat. Chatting on the [...]

Living Proof Concert

October 24, 2010

After attending the Washington Square Park Vigil in memory of the latest spate of bullying-induced suicides a few weeks ago, I received the following email from Neil Totton: “Esmeralda, I got one of your cards Sunday,” the email started. “…I’d like to invite you to a benefit concert I am doing on the 24th of [...]

Eleven Days Left

October 22, 2010

When these pictures were taken, one year ago today, I had NO idea that eleven days later, Andrew would be dead. I had no idea that after this day, I would only see my son alive one more time. These days I have no patience posing for pictures, and to my bitter regret, there are [...]

Ben Settle

October 21, 2010

If you haven’t done so, please sign the petition to break the silence about suicide This morning I saw that another signature, that of Wendy Settle, had been added to the petition, accompanied by the following heart breaking message: In memory of my dear brother, Ben, who died by suicide only one week ago on [...]

Half Regular And Half…

October 20, 2010

Robert needed supplies for his photography class today, so when I picked him up from soccer yesterday afternoon, we headed straight to the newly revamped mall in Scarsdale. I had taken Florentina to that same photography supply shop a few years ago, when she was in high school and Robert was six. I couldn’t believe [...]

A Letter From Bruno To Andrew

October 19, 2010

Bruno wrote this letter to Andrew shortly after Andrew died. And for whatever reasons that Bruno has not yet shared with me, he’s been been asking me to make some slight corrections and post it again. I have known Bruno too long and respect his judgement too much not to honor his request. So here’s [...]


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